Love has a very interesting way of reaching your heart. It's usually when you least expect it, with someone you'd least suspect. Everything you said you wouldn't do or date ends up being who you are with and if it's meant to last it's usually for the best.
Although I'm private about my personal life, I thought I'd share my love story with you all. Among all the chaos and negativity that seems to be happening in the world, it's important to remember the good and believe in the good. Love is real and it does exist, as long as you believe in it and believe you deserve it.
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It was the summer time. I was 21 years old and had just gotten out of what I considered then to be a serious relationship. I finally felt free and decided that I was too young to be in a relationship that wasn't working. So I spent the summer having fun with my friends and doing whatever made me happy. It was the end of August and actually the last weekend before I was going to begin my senior year of college. This meant celebrating the end of summer and prepping for a year of hard work.
My cousins and I decided we'd go lounge hopping. Since we lived in Queens, Astoria was the hot spot. We'd go to one lounge and if we weren't feeling it, we'd keep it moving. That's exactly what we did. From what I remember we went to two places and had an amazing time. It was a night of nostalgia. I bumped into so many people I knew that night and the irony was so real. When the night was done we decided we would stop and eat. One of my cousins had a few friends that she wanted to meet with afterwards so we decided we'd meet them at a nearby diner. We headed to the diner and they never showed. We were still hungry so we went to our usual diner spot, which was closer to our houses.
It was about 4am. I was dressed in jeans, heels, and a summer top. We parked the car and we walked up the ramp that leads to the diner from the parking lot. I didn't know it then but there he was... standing there dressed in slacks and a button down top. I glanced and definitely felt an attraction but I didn't make much of it. He walked in behind us, grabbed a few menus, and seated us. I walked to the bathroom and after sat back to order (he wasn't the waiter). We sat at a table for four although it was only three of us. It was typically crowded at that time because everyone stopped to eat before going home from a club or lounge. I sat in conversation with my cousins, we ate and I continued to glance over at him. He was with his coworkers and I quickly noticed how he was making them laugh.
In typical girl fashion, I asked my cousins what they thought. They were of course supportive and I told them the plan. I was going to write my name on a clean napkin with my cell phone number and hand it to him before I left. I even sprayed it with perfume. I don't remember what I wrote but I think it was my name and "call me" with my number written beneath those words. We paid the bill and he stood at the register. As we were about to walk out, I walked up to him and said "here" while handing him the folded note on a napkin. I said nothing else and left.
At this point, I was being really spontaneous. More spontaneous than usual. I figured I'd take a chance and if it worked it worked, if it didn't it didn't. Honestly, I took a chance and ran with it. There were so many ways the plan could've NOT worked. He could've thrown out the napkin thinking it was garbage for all I knew. But I didn't care. When I got home it was about 6am and my phone was dead. I literally knocked out when I got home and didn't wake up until the early afternoon. I brushed my teeth, ate a very late breakfast and plugged my phone to charge. When the phone finally turned on, I had a voice mail. I listened to it and it was him! The guy from the diner. I was shocked because I really didn't know if he would actually call me. I knew nothing about him, I didn't know if he was single, I didn't know how old he was, I didn't even know his name, I just knew I felt a connection and I took a chance. I waited till later in the day to call him but I'm not going to lie I was excited! I couldn't believe that it actually worked. I called him in the evening, he was with his cousins and we spoke for like a half hour. The whole week after that, while I was at work we sent texts to each other and spoke on the phone planning a time for us to meet again.
The next time we met it was unbelievable how incredibly connected we were. The sparks were there, the compatibility was so on point, and I finally felt the butterflies that everybody talked about. Years later, I'm still with this man. We've been dating since our early 20s. He's become my best friend and confidant, my number one fan and supporter. Some people will say fate brought us together, others will say it was just meant to be, I don't know what it was, but I'm so glad that it happened. One small decision I made out of spontaneity truly changed my life for the better.
What I learned most about what I did was that you are in control of your life. If you are happy and positive you are like a magnet to everything good. You will attract from the world what you give to the world. If you feel you will never find someone or brag/joke about how happy you are that your single (even though deep down that's not how you feel) that's exactly what you are going to get. Life is so full of surprises when you least expect them. As hard as life can get there are moments that are sometimes the smallest but make the biggest difference in your life.
So if you are out there looking for love in the big city, take my one piece of advice.
Believe that you deserve love and it will happen. In the mean time, enjoy yourself, live life to the fullest, and make yourself happy and love will come around when you least expect it.
XOXO,
Miss_NYCity
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